Gossips Ruin Friendships
I am convinced that one of Satan's greatest goals is to destroy relationships. I believe that if he can destroy our relationships that he certainly can destroy not only the church but society, family structure, and even the world. It's that serious.
One of his greatest tools in destroying relationships is gossip. Once anger has come in a friendship, talking about it to others simply compounds the issue.
You know how gossips work. They tell just enough information to get the conversation turned in the direction of the pain that has been caused and they WHAM, they let the object of their anger have it. They may never mention names, but they don't have to. There is enough information for everyone to know who it is and that they are hurt.
Gossip is really a cowards game. They are too afraid to go to the person like the scriptures instruct, especially when they know that they are wrong. The only way to inflict the pain they want to inflict is to stir up trouble for the object of their destruction.
Gossip smacks at one of the only two rules in the scripture that God gives--to love your neighbor as yourself. There is no way to do that when one is talking evil about another. Remember the proverb, (Proverbs 16:28 NCV) "A useless person causes trouble, and a gossip ruins friendships."
God help gossips to stop! They need You Lord--the need salvation. God we need the relationships and You need to be glorified.
One of his greatest tools in destroying relationships is gossip. Once anger has come in a friendship, talking about it to others simply compounds the issue.
You know how gossips work. They tell just enough information to get the conversation turned in the direction of the pain that has been caused and they WHAM, they let the object of their anger have it. They may never mention names, but they don't have to. There is enough information for everyone to know who it is and that they are hurt.
Gossip is really a cowards game. They are too afraid to go to the person like the scriptures instruct, especially when they know that they are wrong. The only way to inflict the pain they want to inflict is to stir up trouble for the object of their destruction.
Gossip smacks at one of the only two rules in the scripture that God gives--to love your neighbor as yourself. There is no way to do that when one is talking evil about another. Remember the proverb, (Proverbs 16:28 NCV) "A useless person causes trouble, and a gossip ruins friendships."
God help gossips to stop! They need You Lord--the need salvation. God we need the relationships and You need to be glorified.
posted by Keith Davis at
8:22 AM
5 Comments:
Amen, Brother! Gossip has always been a thorn in my side. People tend to get carried away with it and end up hurting innocent people. They also usually end up hurting their friends and themselves in the long run. Gossip is an ugly habit and I believe an ugly addiction. There are people out there that live to gossip and keep trouble stirred up. They need the love of the Lord badly. Thanks for your blog!
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Anonymous, at 9:11 AM
Back to Greg’s fine post today:
When one gossips it is a true indication of their level of motivation in light of God’s grace in their lives.
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cwinwc, at 1:21 PM
Keith, your post reminds me of one of my prouder moments with my church. Gossip is one of those things that we only notice when it's there. I think that's true of most sins. We often don't appreciate their absence.
During the time of my divorce, my church group had more than enough reason to gossip about me and my ex. But, while I'm sure that a little of that went on unbeknownst to me, I never heard any and I'm convinced that there wasn't much to hear. Praise God for a group of people that was more concerned about healing and restoration than about blame and guilt.
The whole incident has helped me to try to identify the absence of sin and praise it.
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Thurman8er, at 2:18 PM
Recently, I went to the wedding of a girl who felt she had to quickly marry in order for her child (who most in attendance had no idea about) to have a father. I kept thinking to myself how great it would have been to have been able to be in "attendance" at my own parents wedding!
I wonder what part gossip has played in the shaping of this young girl's worldview. What do you think gives a young girl like this the thought that the only correct way to rectify her situation was to marry?
Gossip can, and statistically will, lead to so much more heartache in this girl's life now.
I wonder where the gossips think she ought to go if not to church. When did the church get the idea that it was built for the "we-don't-need-reedeming-anymore" instead of the "we-need-reedeming-everyday?"
I tremble to think of the gallons of blood we may have on our heads.
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Joey, at 11:11 AM
Amen, Mr. (or Mrs.) Mix.
I don't know what the future holds for these two, but I do know that if my prayers have anything to do with it, then the child will break the cycle that family has "enjoyed" for far too long.
I resolved that night, in my heart and aloud to my wife, that if our daughter or son (neither of which we have yet) comes home with such news, that I will do all within my power to simply be excited! How horrible a memory would it be of your Dad angry at the annoucement of his grandchild. By that point, he or she will know and will have known for quite some time that I didn't approve of the method, and I won't need to re-hash that.
I have learned that there are no illegitimate children. There are sometimes illegitimate parents, but not children. And, at a time like that, my son or daughter will be subject to the same tsunami of gossip which has always been. She'll (or he'll) need to know that I have their back and am with them all the way.
My wife agreed.
I'm sure some of you are rolling your eyes about this sentiment, but if what we're saying is true in this forum, then it must be true in all situations.
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Joey, at 5:44 PM
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